You couldn't have said it better. I have to remind myself of this when I fix my daughters hair. I have to remind her not to worry about every hair not being where she wants it. I am natural and it took me a while to get used to my hair not laying not like it did with the creamy crack, lol.

How can a white parent of a mixed child be expected to automatically know how to do their child's hair? Like everything else in life things never done before or even attempted must be learned. No child comes with a handbook when they are born so no one should assume or make another feel bad about not knowing something especially as superficial as "doing hair". My own mother is Puerto Rican w/ wavy-curly hair and I am Puerto Rican/Dominican with tight curly hair and she had no idea how to do my hair for yrs. Many people would assume I was black because my hair was close to that texture.They recommended she relax my hair at age five and I wasn't given a choice in the matter and sadly I am now addicted to the "creamy crack" relaxer. I have been considering the natural approach lately. As a grown woman I would have to learn how to handle my own "mixed" hair. I also have two mulatto sons but if ever I should have a daughter I still wouldn't automatically know how to take care of her hair but I could and definitely would learn.